You Can’t Hurry Love
- Inez Singletary
- 2 days ago
- 2 min read
New Moon | October 2025 | 28 Libra 22’
I slapped her. I told her that I was angry with her for being angry with the other. I was feeling like enough was enough. I had taken the matter into my own hand. My right hand to her right cheek.
When I awoke remembering the dream, I knew the dream’s message. This is how you really feel about this situation. You feel ready to do violence.
Not that I would roll like that and slap anyone’s face “in real life.” The dream wanted me to know that this was my energy, and it wasn’t centered or grounded or aligned.
I felt righteous, but was I right?
“Heal your concern.” says Eric Butterworth. Recently, I was gifted this quote when wondering if I should tell someone that in my opinion, they were making a mistake. Of course, I would be interjecting out of love, and I felt an urgency to protect. I wanted to save them from themselves. What I understand Butterworth to be saying is that there is no value added by worry or anger about a situation. If I was afraid for my friend—what could I say that would help? “It's your decision, but I'm afraid, so think about my fear before you proceed.”
I have come to see "heal your concern" as mind my own business. I thought I knew what was going on with the people of my dream, that I understood the motives and knew who was right and who was wrong, and I probably didn’t. At any rate, my mind is now suspended. I know that my perceived knowing could be a blind.
I share this story because it fits the New Moon. Perhaps you will relate to it in some shape or form. This story illumines Libra, the sign of relationships. The wisdom here is about trying to force what you think is right—courtesy of Mars—by force or violence. In the new Moon chart, Mars conjuncts Mercury, planet of communication in Scorpio and could trigger feelings of fear so intensely, it feels urgent to take control. However, there has to be some consideration given to whether might makes right or necessarily means right.
“Heal your own concern” could be represented by Chiron, The Wounded Healer, in the sign of Aries, the self, taking the mote out of your own eye (Jupiter square the New Moon).
You might effect transformation of others by healing or changing yourself, or simply stepping back and staying objective or neutral, in situations where you might not be able to help. (Pluto in Aquarius opposite Jupiter)
The moral of the story is you can’t hurry love, especially by force because when pushing, you are not using love energy.
Practicum
If you have drama with anyone that’s making you feel that you have a right to force the issue, consider it might be more effective to be balanced and poised in yourself.
“You don’t have to worry about their vibration if your vibration is one of connection—Because if your vibration is one of connection, you’re going to dominate the vibration.” (Abraham-Hicks)