We are taking ourselves and others seriously, considering how we can articulate our needs and visions without undermining or destabilizing our relationships. I may be self-made, but for whom, if not for you? I have to be me, that’s great! But then, you have to be you. You deserve the utmost respect and consideration. We both need to make our mark. We make it in relationship to one another. Our marks may be parallel or connected at some point, touching or not touching, but if our lives come together on the same field, if you see me and I see you, then our connection becomes something. It makes a difference for us and for others. We get better individually and together.
We get an inkling about the adjustments we need to make in our beliefs about how far we can go, what we can have, be and do. We feel ready to make changes and to take some risks so that we may break through certain boundaries, limits, and obstructions.
We distinguish ourselves from family expectations and values when they do not agree with our own. We sense the importance of going our own way even though we may not want to make waves. We want approval and acceptance, but we also want to fulfill ourselves and pursue our own interests and fulfill our own direction and destination.
Our families, and especially our mothers, may be putting pressure on us to conform to their expectations, but we manage to finesse our point of view. We may also be imagining the pressure.
We are sick of letting our own insecurities get in the way of us having that which is over the next rise.
In some ways the pressures from others serves to clarify to ourselves what our own point of view is and what it is that we feel deep down in our souls.
Some of us experience pressure in terms of the social sanctioning of our unions, whether we feel that we should get married, or whether we feel the pain of being forbidden to be married.
Perhaps the opposition to same sex marriage doesn’t actually come from outside where it is reflected in drama and law, but exists as an out-picturing of internal conflict and ambiguity. As Shakespeare said, “It is in ourselves that we are underlings.” What is the tape that is playing in your mind that describes you to you?
At any rate, we can all practice not being underlings in whatever way we imagine or image ourselves to be. We call it differently from what appears. We do not describe lives for ourselves in which we are not victorious.
Change the way your view your internal screen and the dialog of your “character” and watch shift happen.
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